When I started out, I found that it was a challenge to be taken seriously. I overcame this hurdle very early in my career by committing myself to diligent work. The schedule I described, though it has been modified over the years depending on my responsibilities, has more or less remained the same in terms of the hours I spend committing myself to my work.
The mission and goal is to help people who have the same problem as me. I struggled with skin for so long. Now that I’ve figured out what works I decided to share with people and there’s quite good reviews. It brings joy to my heart to see my products work for people because I know how it feels to have skin problems.
Narrowing it down to my culture, back in my hometown of Jilig in the North East of Ghana, women are predominantly groomed to take the back seat. It is unfortunate however it is the sad truth! Women do play an important role during marriage ceremonies. These roles are; however, played in the secret of a room behind closed doors. Women in my culture are expected basically to grow up, marry, and bear children. Education and economic value are secondary, though many families seem to be pushing for that in recent times.
We have been raised to expect wonders from our mothers and so little of our fathers. We demand food, shelter and warmth without considering that mothers also are in need of those. And yet there's a prevalent culture of judgment from women to other women who choose not to follow the norm. It’s almost as if we all know that the norm is killing us and yet to not be part of it would mean exile from your community.
Nigeria went under lockdown in April and what was supposed to be a 2-week lockdown became months with little-to-no economic activity. In a country, in which most of the economy is powered by the activities of micro, small, medium enterprises (MSME), it was emotional to watch stores and other businesses shut down and also lay off employees.
This time has been very tough. I have to stay at home for my safety. I was supposed to do my research (collecting data) and I cannot do it as it mostly requires meeting with people. I also had a lot of business meetings and events to do but I cannot proceed due to this virus. Lastly, I wanted to travel to see my family and I am stuck here due to this.
Growing up, my mom was always around - until she began to provide for my whole family by herself. She used to make nice birthday celebrations with marathons for all the kids to play, with perfect decorations and baking. When she started to work more, we were mostly okay with it. I used to sink in my writing and in books, other worlds always felt better than my own. But my mother was always there, and she still is. Maybe I didn't grow up to be the perfect daughter she definitely deserved, but I try my best every day to make her happy because I know how much she did for me and still does. I love our whole story.
I seriously tell her everything, and when I say everything, I really mean everything. All the hot gossip of who's dating who from elementary school up until college. My friends are also probably closer to her than I am LOL! My parents are very open up to the point that my friends would be helping her cook or clean when I come home. I think when 'respect' doesn't equal fear, but a simple silver lining where we have mutual respect for each other - not always the young respecting the elders only like in most Asian homes, the relationship with your mother becomes the best sisterhood you'll ever have.
Growing up, I always had trouble finding my own clothes. They say “free size” but it ends with size 42/44 (EU)! The “plus-size” section always had the most boring clothes! I thought to myself “how many people face the same thing?” and I had to do something about it. Hence, my initiative - BOLD!