Life As A Woman
Personal interviews with individuals who identify as female with insights into what it’s like to be a woman in their part of the world.
Narrowing it down to my culture, back in my hometown of Jilig in the North East of Ghana, women are predominantly groomed to take the back seat. It is unfortunate however it is the sad truth! Women do play an important role during marriage ceremonies. These roles are; however, played in the secret of a room behind closed doors. Women in my culture are expected basically to grow up, marry, and bear children. Education and economic value are secondary, though many families seem to be pushing for that in recent times.
We have been raised to expect wonders from our mothers and so little of our fathers. We demand food, shelter and warmth without considering that mothers also are in need of those. And yet there's a prevalent culture of judgment from women to other women who choose not to follow the norm. It’s almost as if we all know that the norm is killing us and yet to not be part of it would mean exile from your community.
I challenge society’s standards and I'm not afraid to take risks. Apart from being an aspiring freelance model, I also fix cars with my friends. I see myself as a Victorian - I don't let anyone or anything limit me and I go for what I want. I was bullied a lot and still I am being made to think I'm not worth anything. People have rejected me because I don't have clear skin, because I don't have the perfect body, etc., I've been raped and left for dead but through strength and prayer, I survived and lived through the experience. Many said I asked for it and some say they were trying to take the 'tomboy' out of me. My story still continues as I live to fight another day.
There are many things I am passionate about. I personally feel passion changes with time, with your age. Currently, I am passionate about a career in the Tech field - that’s the reason I am pursuing my career as a Computer Engineer. To talk about my childhood, I was more passionate about dancing, writing, and honestly I do it in my free time. Tomorrow, if you ask me, I would be saying I am passionate about travelling the world, counselling people, giving motivational talks at a big stage and many more. So, I think it’s a changing process. At the end ,"change" always remains constant right?
W.Founder
Personal interviews with for-profit & non-profit founders who identify as female with insights into their entrepreneurial journeys and their rise to the top.
The mission and goal is to help people who have the same problem as me. I struggled with skin for so long. Now that I’ve figured out what works I decided to share with people and there’s quite good reviews. It brings joy to my heart to see my products work for people because I know how it feels to have skin problems.
I wanted to do things that others considered difficult, and to take advantage of opportunities that others passed up as difficult. In companies I’ve worked for, I always quickly reached a glass ceiling and I knew that my curiosity and my inner geek would always be in search of nurturing me with more knowledge and experience. When you focus first on the purpose and then on monetizing it, the equation changes. When a problem represents a challenge and your actions reflect a solution, resilience increases. When each step leaves a green mark on the world and a smile on people, the perspective is different.
I was a professional dancer for 10 great years and that’s what I always wanted to pursue. Dance is not just an art for me - it’s my passion. While taking care of the website and marketing requirements for my dance company, I got this job opportunity at Hogarth (a WPP company) as a Software Engineer which I never wanted to take. However, I never said no to any opportunity, and like many others, my family wanted me to have a stable career. So I attended the interview, got selected, and that’s where my journey in this industry began. Leaving dance was a very big deal for me so I made a promise to myself that I would do the job for 6 months and if it did not feel fine to me, I would return to dance; and if I chose this [industry], then I was not going to do a 9-5 the whole of my life. I would learn and then start my own agency. Well, interestingly enough, after 6 months I was in love with this!
When I was a kid when my mother would relax my hair; I would cry from the relaxer burning my scalp and she would say “pretty hurts my child” and continue. I got used to healing the scalp burns after every relaxer treatment. Four years ago, I decided to cut my relaxed hair to grow my afro and that’s when I realized that I did not know anything about my natural hair - from products to use to maintaining it. I then started my natural hair journey through trial and error and lot of research. I got good feedback about my hair, people started asking what I did and what products I used. Initially, I only wanted an organic skincare manufacturing business but after my natural hair journey, I decided to start with haircare.
Celebrating our mothers
This series celebrates mothers by highlighting positive examples of motherhood, parenting, and family.
She is not only my mother but also my heroine, my best friend and a sister like l have never had. In times of sorrow, she wipes my tears, in times of sickness she becomes my doctor, in times of giving up she becomes my motivator, and in times of hardships she becomes my baggage carrier.
The thing that I cannot forget was my mom's technique to manage my anger when I was little, around 5 years old. She would give me colour pencils and empty pages, and just install me in a calm corner, without even talking or discussing anything, and she could wait there doing her home tasks and all, for hours, till I went back to her and show her what I drew. That was something that many people cannot establish with a small one, and that’s what we call patience.
She became my first client on my freelance journey. I was changing careers and industries amidst the pandemic. She helped me believe in my art of writing and marketing and helped me to find my first gig with her company's social media. Following that, I have been able to work on many more clients nationally and internationally and have also been featured in many international magazines. Her help was the stepping stone for my journey in the world of Creative Marketing.
My best memory of my mother is one we recently made - we went on holiday together, just the two of us. We did it all - breakfast in bed, shopping, late-night chats, you name it. This was a first of its kind and we both thoroughly enjoyed it. Being far away from home due to work and school has been hard for me, so now I look forward to this little tradition of ours, spending mother and daughter time.